The Top 3 Things I Did to Mend a Broken Heart and Increase the Joy and Happiness in My Daily Life – Part 3

The Top 3 Things I Did to Mend a Broken Heart and Increase the Joy and Happiness in My Daily Life – Part 3

This is a continuation of Part 2.

#3 Choose One of the Things that Bring You a Great Amount of Joy and Do It Regularly

Many of you have seen this play out in my life in recent years. After having several years of significant traumas, I decided to physically and manually input something that brings great joy to me in my life. And for me that is travel.
 

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Now, many people think if that’s the case, I should be joyous all the time, because I am always traveling. But what the vast majority of people don’t understand is that when I’m traveling, I am completely traveling for work. So, I cannot enjoy a place in the same manner working as I would if I didn’t have to work. It is often the case as well that when I’m traveling for work, I am going to the same places repeatedly.

Therefore, I decided a couple of years ago to force myself to go on vacations. After not taking a vacation for nearly 13 years, I decided that I was going to go on vacation every 30 days. It didn’t have to be far nor an exotic place, but it had to be work-free and enjoyable for me. What that time did was grant me freedom and removed a great deal of stress that had been accumulating over the years in my life. It allowed me to slow down an ever so busy schedule and just focus on me and the things that bring me happiness and joy.

This one input into my life gifted me an amazing opportunity to de-stress and refuel so I could be ready to run on a little bit further in my life.
 

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Your joy and happiness are your responsibility to find. On this life journey, we will all experience an abundance of things and many can and will bring you great pain, unhappiness, and uncertainty.

It is each of our responsibility to do whatever is necessary to find and obtain joy, happiness and peace in our daily lives. You cannot fully give it to anyone else if you don’t first give it to yourself. Go get it. Go find it. Go be it. The world awaits a happier more joyous you and all of the fruits the new you will bear.

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The Top 3 Things I Did to Mend a Broken Heart and Increase the Joy and Happiness in My Daily Life – Part 2

The Top 3 Things I Did to Mend a Broken Heart and Increase the Joy and Happiness in My Daily Life – Part 2

This is a continuation of Part 1.

#2 Learn the Power of No and Connect it to What Brings You Joy

I have never had a problem saying no. It has never been something that has been difficult for me. But what I’ve learned to do with that word in recent years is to use it in a way to help to reduce some of the stress and obligations in my life.
 
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I am constantly and consistently overwhelmed with things to do. There are lots of things I would love to do, but there is just not enough time in the day for me to do them. So years ago, I decided to only say yes to the things that make me feel good and no to everything else. If there’s any question about whether I would enjoy doing it or want to do it, I simply say no. I have learned to lead with no. If I later decide to do it, once I see that I have my priorities done, then I will. But I don’t set it up in a way that requires me to do it, because that puts way too much pressure and stress on me to get it done.

I cannot tell you the level of joy I have received in practicing this. I simply start with a no. Then, once I have time to review what’s possible in relation to all of the other things I have to do, and/or want to do, I can decide to change my mind and do it. But I no longer have the stress or pressure to feel as if I have to do everything. This one principal in and of itself has created tremendous amounts of joy and happiness on a daily basis for me in my life.
 

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I also do this with the things that I buy. If I don’t love it, I don’t buy it. With a very small exception in the event that I absolutely need something for work, if I don’t love it, it is definitely a no. I have never been one to do a tremendous amount of shopping, but when I do, this is now a principle I live by. And what that does is create a tremendous amount of joy in what I do have and eliminates what I don’t need and/or want.

If you eliminate all of the things that don’t feed you, you’ll have more time to put into all of the things that do.

Continue to Part 3.

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The Top 3 Things I Did to Mend a Broken Heart and Increase the Joy and Happiness in My Daily Life – Part 1

The Top 3 Things I Did to Mend a Broken Heart and Increase the Joy and Happiness in My Daily Life – Part 1

Often times in anyone’s life there are many things that occur which prevent us from being all that we could be to ourselves. Those things can range from taking care of others, rearing your children and just dealing with all of life’s circumstances as a whole. But what I know for sure is that if you don’t move yourself into the position of number one, you will never be able to completely find the eternal joy and happiness that you desire and deserve in your life.
 

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It happens without us knowing. You don’t wake up one morning and say, “Hey, I’m going to put myself at the bottom of the pile.” It is much more unconscious than that. It just slowly sneaks up on you. And before you know it, you are at the very bottom of the list and your entire life begins to reflect that new positioning.

Here are the top three things I did to mend my broken heart and to increase the level of joy and happiness in my day-to-day living after dealing with years of losing loved ones, coping with the permanent injury of a child, being responsible for others and the myriad of other challenges we all face that come along with simply living.

#1 Make Yourself Your Priority

Now, when I say to make yourself your priority, I don’t mean that in a selfish way. You can still be responsible for others and help take care of others, but what you can’t do is ignore and diminish your own needs in the process. What’s important to do is to daily, weekly, biweekly or even monthly, look at the things you need to do or have in place in your own life to be happy. What are the elements that bring you joy? Then make those items a priority. Regularly and consistently.

Sometimes those things can be as simple as giving yourself time in the day to just focus on the things that feed you. That was a very big one for me. Other times, it could be something that requires a bit more like getting regular massages, a therapy session, or a weekly night out with yourself or with a friend. But, whatever it is, decide that you are going to have it. Protect it. Preserve it. Decide that you’re worth it. Decide there is no way you will not give it to yourself and do it.
 

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For me, one of those things is as simple as giving myself my mornings. I know for a fact that when I do – I am better. I am physically better. I am mentally better. I am emotionally better. I am spiritually better. To not do so would be a tremendous loss for me.

So many people depend on me for many different things in their lives – like their business needs, legal needs and/or personal needs. If I did not gift this time to myself daily, I would be weighed down with everyone else’s stuff without ever feeling filled. It’s like preparing to travel across the country without having gas in your tank. You know you have to expend energy and fuel to make it to your destination, but if you don’t have it, you cannot give it. My mornings provide me my gas to make it through the days so I can give more and be more throughout the day for those that need me to show up fully whole in a particular way.

My mornings are cleared for me. In my scheduler, they are completely protected. There is no meeting important enough to schedule during that time. There’s no client issue critical enough for me to forgo that focus. There’s no place I have to get to so important that I must go during those hours. The only things that matter during that divinely designated time are my thoughts, my wellness, my daily exercise and myself.

Continue to Part 2.

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The Top 5 Reasons Why Fear Can Block You From Your Greatest Dreams In Business and In Life – Part 1

The Top 5 Reasons Why Fear Can Block You From Your Greatest Dreams In Business and In Life – Part 1

Where you want to go in your business or life is not about something external. It is solely about who and what you have to become to get there. I believe your greatest successes in life can be found on the other side of your greatest fears.

1. It Can Be Paralyzing

Fear is a great equalizer. It can stop some of the most amazing people from living their greatest lives. Fear can transform otherwise very successful people into accepting a reduced version of themselves, solely based on fear.

What have you allowed fear to block you from doing in your life? And are you currently taking the necessary steps to overcome it?

One of the toughest issues in dealing with fear is the paralyzing effect it can often have on those it possesses. This great paralyzer will thwart your efforts, wants and actions – causing you to deny and seize all desires to move forward.
 

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2. You Are Unwilling to Confront It

Have you ever wondered what makes some people conquer their biggest fears but not others?

We all have experienced fear in some area of our lives. Some a bit more than others, but we all know the human experience of fear and what it brings with it. Some people face fear head on, while others bury their heads in the sand and won’t face it at all.

What we know for sure is that if you are unwilling to confront it, fear will overtake you and you will never overcome it.

The world is filled with countless people who wish they would have the courage to face and overcome the fear that controls so much of their lives. But that requires them to take the first steps to acknowledge and face it. A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
 

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3. The Presence of Arrogance

Arrogance can often be found as an element of fear. How does it show up you may ask? It can show up as a defensive mechanism to hide the fact that fear is even present.

It has been said that a smart man knows when to ask for help. But when you are consumed with arrogance, asking for help is not something you are remotely interested in doing. Instead of being consumed with what you think people may think about you, stay focused on what can be manifested in your life if you simply ask for the help that you need to overcome the fear that is blocking you from moving forward.

Continue to Part 2 here.

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The Problem With Trying to Make People Stay

The Problem With Trying to Make People Stay

Trying to make people stay is never a good idea – whether in personal relationships or in business. It’s not a good idea, because if people don’t know the value of who you are to them in their lives, you couldn’t possibly receive the best of what they can give you. I know this can be very difficult, particularly in personal matters, but you must know that who and what is for you is for you, and allowing someone to stay who can’t honor your highest self only does a disservice to you.

If someone is inclined to be without you, allow them. I don’t want anyone down for me when they no longer want to be and are just faking as if they are.
 

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Obviously, there are situations where someone may just temporarily feel a certain way and want or need to go temporarily. That is not what I am talking about. I am referring to people who no longer desire to be with you as an employee, friend, loved one, family member or romantic partner.

Humans are often fickle. They will switch up on you very quickly, but when they have already made a decision to leave you, just let them go.

When you hold on to the waste of someone that does not want to be present, what you will get from them is nothing you’d want to possess. They will be disloyal, negative, problematic and frankly no longer of service to the wholeness of your well-being.

When this occurs, let them go! Don’t try to force them into something they no longer choose to be in. Send them off with love and peace. Wish them the best and prepare yourself for the arrival of something far greater that the universe will send your way.
 

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Don’t allow fear to make you hold on, beg and plead for another day. Send them off now! Call forth the next being that is yet to instill blessings onto you. You cannot receive it when you are holding on to others for the reduced versions of what they’re choosing to offer you.

Be good to yourself, set them and yourself free. I promise you, there is far greater for you on the other side.

If you need some ideas on ways to be good to yourself, download my ebook, 10 Steps to Being Good to Yourself HERE.


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